Archive for August, 2010

How today’s youth deals with being labled outcast and not fitting in?

August 19, 2010

Greetings everyone.  This weeks topic of discussion or, social dynamic was based upon young people not fitting in.  As a group we read various monologues from my book series that were  related to the topic.  Conducting a round robin, I decided to personally asked each one of my young adults how they felt about individuals who simply never seemed to fit in? 

Most of the young adults stated that they felt compassion for these individuals.  In fact, many of the young adults in my group found it to be cruel  that  youngsters labeled other youngsters simply because  they did not fit in due to their appearance, or personality.   One response that stood out came directly from one of my young males.  He stated that an associate of his that attended school with him wanted to fit in so bad with this popular group that he actually had his barber cut the name of this group in his head.  

As the session continue, some of my students even admitted to the fact that they were also labeled as outcast. Curious as to how they handled being labeled and not fitting in, I asked how it made them feel. Some of youngsters stated that it made them feel very lonely and due to feeling this way it made them shut down even more. Several students mentioned that they handled the situation violently due to being fed up with being made fun off. Others mentioned that they did not care and they handled the situation by simply going on with their everyday lives.  Towards the end of the session, the one thing most of us agreed on was that everyone deserved to be treated fairly with dignity and respect. 

 As we all know the summer is coming to an end.  Unfortunately, this  means that my Socialization Skills program for the summer has come to an end.  The six weeks went by so fast. To tell you the truth, I ‘m still trying to figure out where all the time went.    Believe me when I say that yesterday was not an easy day for me.  Although the time allotment was only six weeks, we bonded and learned so much from one another. At the end yesterdays session we said our good byes and bided each other farewell.

To everyone that has followed me on this journey to understand our young adults better, I  thank you.  I look forward  to letting you all know how the socialization skills program goes in the Fall of 2010. 

Respectfully

Adra Young

Author of: The Everyday Living of Children & Teens Monologues Series

Socialization Skill Curriculum Provider for the Detroit Impact Center

www.ardannyl.me

How Today’s Youth Deals With Disappointments In Life?

August 12, 2010

Hello everyone.  Today makes the fifth week working with my young adults at the Detroit Impact Center in Detroit, Michigan.  As I mentioned in my blog last week, the social dynamic or topic of discussion for the week pertained to dealing  with disappointments in life.   As we dialogue about the topic, it  was discovered that many of the disappointments they encountered took place in their earlier years. 

Most of my young ladies  mentioned that priceless items were taken by individuals they would’ve never expected.  For example, one young lady mentioned that her cabbage patch doll was stolen from someone very close to her and since that incident, they have yet to speak to one another.  Some of my male students stated that  individuals had taken items from them such as name brand clothes and shoes.  Sadly even someone’s dog was taken.   The question that I posed today was how did they get passed these specific type of disappointments?  Many of them responded simply by saying time heals.

Towards the end of the session today we discussed how young women and men deal with disappointments in life when it comes to a relationship going sour.  My young men basically stated that they would quickly move on without thinking about it.  My young ladies stated they would go into the next situation proceeding with caution.   Some of my female students took offense to most of the male responses and decided to initiate a debate. 

By the end of the session,  some of my young men modified their responses.    One opinion that stood out with the entire group today stated by one of male students was that it  simply depended on how that young man felt or viewed that young lady at that time.  In  other words, if  he  was just seeing her until something better came along it would not cause disappointment, on the other hand if he  invested some time with this young lady and the relationship discontinued than it  would have an effect on him.

This debate on relationships took up most of our time day however, we  all agreed that the best way to get past disappointments in life were to simply stay and remain focussed on doing positive things.  The next topic or social dynamic for next week is titled  “Kids that our Labelled Out Cast.”   Until then, I will keep you posted on the outcome.

Adra Young

Socialization Skills Curriculum Provider for the Detroit Impact Center

Author of:   The Everyday Living of Children &  Teens Monologues Series

Dealing with today’s young adults on the topic of happiness.

August 3, 2010

Currently serving as the Socialization skills curriculum provider at the Detroit Impact Center located in Detroit Michigan, I had the opportunity to dialogue with my group of  outstanding young adults on the content of pure and true happiness.   I kicked the session of by providing post cards for everyone.  They were instructed to list one good thing that had taken place in their lifetime.

I  of course to break the ice volunteered to go  first.  I went on to tell them the story of my roller skates and how I skated on eight wheels up and  down the  street in the middle of the snow in Gary, Indiana. At that time I was only nine years old.  The skates were provided to me by my father and they had meant the world to me.

Our dialogue in regards to happiness today was truly amazing!   Two of the young men mentioned that the birth of their  children was truly their happiest moments in their life’s.  One young lady mentioned that turning 13 was very happy and awesome experience.  Another young lady mentioned that her grandmother coming home from the hospital was her happiest moment ever.

Shortly afterwards,  we immediately begin working on the second activity  for the day.  The directions  were to turn the same post card over and list one thing they had done for someone else to make that individual happy.  I explained to my group  that conducting something good for someone else does not necessarily involve the spending of money.  For example, smiling at someone with a dismissal look upon their face or  providing words of encouragement are just two great ways to make someone else happy.

During our debrief session at the end,  we had all come to discover that some of my students had done wonderful things for other individuals to make them happy.  Allowing individuals  to move in their homes and  the providing of  clothing were just a few of the actions these youngsters had taken to make someone else happy.  It turns out that some of my students who had provided these acts of kindness  found themselves being  betrayed in the long run.   The  individuals they had shown acts of kindness to not only underappreciated it, some of them even today refuse to acknowledge them at all.  Simply, some of my young adults wanted to know if providing acts of kindness were worth it in the long run  just to make someone else happy.

I explained to them that acts of kindness whether reciprocated  back  from  those same individuals  or not could never hurt and were truly worth the act.  In addition, I explained to them all  that just because they selected to provided a good deed for someone does not necessarily mean that a good deed will be reciprocated to them immediately.  In the end we all agreed that actions  applied to make someone else happy for today  in the long run would be returned to you when you least expect it.

Our topic or social dynamic of discussion for next week is “Disappointments in life. Until then, I will keep you posted.

Adra Young

Author of: The Everyday Living of Children & Teens Monologue Series

Curriculum & Socialization Skills Provider for: The Detroit Impact Center